I went to visit my very close friend and her husband this weekend and had the time of my life in Washington, DC!
When I came back home, I had this feeling in the pit of my stomach. A feeling I know all too well. "You need to make some changes in your life so you can experience more joy, because we need this more often!" It was a voice I heard, repeating over and over until I couldn't ignore it anymore!
...that seems so unimportant when money, success, and responsibility loom over our heads constantly! Joy is for children and those who've "made it" and the rest of us, well, we still have a lot of "work to do!"
But you see, I was blessed this weekend with a wonderful vacation and experienced so much joy that all my goals and "to do lists" faded in the background because I was so present and in a state of true happiness.
I really didn't want it to end. In fact, this morning I was left feeling sad, that this "joyous" weekend would get further and further away from me. That I would slip into an "all work and no play mode" for God knows how long. And it really scared me!
I'm sure many of you can relate, and I think the 20's is plagued with this feeling of needing to accomplish our goals ASAP and be somewhere better FAST! We often favor this over enjoying the whole process from start to finish and God forbid, allowing for us to have have fun and relax in the midst of it all! And don't get me started on...
we will be here forever! Perfection is this annoying creature that ties your hands behind you back; while it rears it's mean face at you and tells you all of the ways in which you need to be better than you are.
It's obsessive, inflexible, hates critiques, and never accepts failures to be an option.
Most importantly it takes life way too seriously! Perfection tricks you into thinking there is only one RIGHT way to do things, and makes you feel like crap when things don't go as planned.
You see, we can't progress with perfection as our goal because we're too afraid to make mistakes! (I won't even begin to tell you how many times I've re-read this post before I pushed the "publish" button)
But I mention all of that to say... that we don't have to live the way in which we can only be happy unless all the "hard work is done" and our "ducks are in a row".
"Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it."
So even if we have a lot of work to do, we still deserve to take a moment to have fun and raise those positive vibes! And by abandoning perfection and embracing possibilities of failure, which is really just under the larger umbrella called "Learning", we grow tremendously and learn without the anxiety of being "not good enough". And this my friends, is the basis for all good things! It keeps us happy, inquisitive, creative, hopeful, and healthy!
JOY should be experienced no matter what stage of life we are at.
I learned through my joyous weekend, that having FUN and sharing good times with great people had far more lasting effects on my wellbeing and purpose in life then I was aware of. Because of this joyous time, I was able to look at my everyday life and say "we need to make some changes". That wouldn't have happened if I didn't take this much needed vacation. I'm beginning to find that joy helps us and guides us to breakthroughs!
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